There is a saying that you can ‘have your cake and eat it too‘ that is often used as an insult. That is because it usually is. I mean, no matter what way you look at it or twist it, that is ultimately what you are asking for. No matter what word play you use to justify your actions, it still makes it an insult.

I do not think I take for granted inherent things in the world. Is it not inherent that you be faithful to your girlfriend or boyfriend regardless of whether or not a ring is on their finger? Should it not be an agreement by both of you if you decide to step out on them? I mean, think about all the emotions you have to play with to do that. You first hurt the one you claim to love because they have now become insufficient for you; they cannot give you what you want so their role has been minimized to nothing. You make them feel that small that you actually expect them to take you back into their bed afterwards as if to call them a whore. Then you have the one that you cheat with; they think they now have a chance with you and get hurt when you say ‘no’. Sex should not be about fucking. Sex should be about making love and showing that love to your partner. You cheat with that person, they think it will go somewhere. Perhaps it will. Perhaps that is what you want all along. Despite what you say. You disrespect two people and make them both whores when you cheat.

How then can you ask your partner to love, respect, and support you anymore? You cannot do the same for them, but expect it of them? How can you make them feel so small like that? Someone you claim to love. It is not right. No matter what wordplay you attempt to put out there. Sure, it is your life and you can do as you please, but just like having kids, you have a bond with someone else and their feelings, needs, wants, and desires come into consideration too. At least they should. You should always consider your partner’s feelings, needs, and wants.

When you open up your bed to another person, you open a door that cannot be shut easily at all.

Play with other people’s emotions. Throw their feelings and heart around like a piece of trash. Disregard everyone else. So long as you get what you want–your cake and to eat it to– fuck everyone else.