I love a good love song when I’m in love. Nothing better than to listen to something that makes you think of the object of your affections. I like songs that make me feel, and love songs make me feel. Sometimes they make me feel happy, and sometimes they make me feel sad. There is nothing wrong with a good love song. But the not-a-love-song songs are even better to me at times.

The songs of agony, pain, betrayal, forbidden desire, wrongs, and the like excite me more often than most love songs; some make me feel empowered. But it’s a specific formula for me; a trifecta of lyrics, sound, and beat. The lyrics have to move me, the music has to sound good, and the beat has to pop just right (or have some underlying constant throughout the song). This song does not depress me at all; a love song may. This song makes me feel more than a love song if I’m not in a relationship to “feel” it in.

I’m a hopeless romantic; I’ll extend my mind, body, and soul to a special someone every-time despite the same results. I believe in love being honest to the core, loyalty, affectionate, happy, and humble; I humble myself for those I truly love because they are my happiness. So a love song will make me “feel” more when I’m in a relationship because I love being happy more than anything; and it is a beautiful thing to see when a person displays true happiness (and even more beautiful when that person is the object of your affection).

But I am not in a relationship. So a not-a-love-song song makes me feel more empowered than a love song because I don’t have the affirmation of a love song. It’s fantasy.